Dating Isn’t the Same.


After being here for three years, I’ve observed a lot of things at NEC, especially when it comes to the black community and the dating scene. Due to the number of black female students and black male students here on campus, you’d think more relationships would blossom from all these seeds.

But actually, they don’t. Statistics tell us that 63% of women hope to meet their spouse in college, but will that be the outcome for black female students here at NEC? A previous article of mine touched on why black females on campus are not involved in any interracial relationships. But now, we’re figuring out why there aren’t many relationships at all.

So, our first test subject is me. I’m 20 years old and I will be graduating in Spring 2019 with my B.A. in Communication Studies, and for the past three years, I haven’t found a single young man on this campus interesting enough to be my boyfriend. Now of course I’ve had semester crushes, but why haven’t I found one person? I know for a fact NEC has smart, polite, young men on campus hiding somewhere, but this is clearly an issue if I can only name three black couples on campus and everyone else is single. So, I thought of a few other reasons love doesn’t exist.

College students prefer short-term, casual relationships over long-term relationships because it allows them to focus on their academic and career goals.

Most college couples break up around spring break, summer vacation, and right before winter break. These are factors to consider, but they can’t be the only reason. While speaking to a few black females undergrads, they gave their respectful and honest opinion of the dating pool of black men.

“They aren’t mature enough and not attractive and have a lot of drama,” said one freshmen.

“I think they don’t like us and we don’t like them,” said a sophomore. “I believe that the Black young men are childish and entitled.”

A few of the girls discussed the pros and cons of dating someone here on campus. “I think it would be nice to create a bond with someone at the same campus as myself, study dates and Netflix on snow days, but that’s not realistic here because everyone talks to and dates the same person. I’d rather not get involved in that,” said a junior.

What is clear from NEC’s match making skills is that a lot of students, both female and male, aren’t feeling each other; this also means that there is room for the two sexes to grow and discover each other.

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Dnysha is a third year New England College student pursing a a Bachelor's Degree in Communications. She is a very active member of the NEC community whether she's hosting events, working as an RA, or organizing functions for Amazing Minority Girls Unite where she works as club President. She has been involved with The New Englander for several years as Social Media Editor and currently writes a column entitled, Black Girl Problems. Dnysha will be graduating in Spring 2019.
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